"Say yes to your children whenever you can. Only say no when you have to - when the issue has to do with safety or growing their character, for example. This reflects God's heart. Ask them to do things that are reasonable and for their good, and be prepared to give them the reasons when they're old enough to understand. This, too, reflects God: everything He tells us to do is reasonable and for our good. This approach to obedience helps children realize as they grow older that God isn't arbitrary or a killjoy. From your example they will begin to see that God's way is the best way."
I find that I often say "no" because something isn't convenient for me, or because I don't have the time to stand there and laugh when Graham does something silly. Today, though, I asked myself, is this a Yes or No ... and I chose Yes. And I helped my little boy put on bright pink dish gloves and watched him stand there, as he chuckled at his little mitten hands. I treasured the moment with him, and then moved him on to another activity. But it was a conscious Yes. A conscious welcoming of a moment that passes too quickly for him and for me. I like the idea of allowing him - even helping him - to do things that not only are permissible because they don't harm his body or character, but also give him a sense of wonder or bring humor. And I hope I can continue.
